Your partner wants out and you’re probably left with many questions about how things went wrong. The choices that you make from this point onwards will determine whether you are choosing to live from a place of truth or denial.
What you are hearing is your partner’s truth – how you and your relationship is being perceived. You may not want to admit that things have changed but you don’t have a choice but to accept what you are hearing.
When you are ready to handle the truth, you’ll respond in ways that preserves your dignity and self respect. The key is to accept – even though you may not agree. Acceptance is the primary place of power, while denial will strip you of your self respect.
Devastated by the news, many respond with desperate acts that are beneath them. Consistently trying to convince someone to want you is not fighting for your relationship, it’s begging.
Nor is it love, it’s a well misguided effort to try to get things to turn out the way you want them to. A drifting partner’s truth is hard to accept and this is why many choose to live in denial.
Reality is – your relationship is broken. Can it be saved? Possibly, but not from your own pain or manipulating someone to want you.
How to handle the truth:
1. Believe how your partner feels about the relationship.
2. Do not try to save your relationship if your partner wants out of it. This will only strip you of your dignity. You can only build when you’re on the same team.
3. Save yourself, begin to rebuild your self esteem.
4. Create a life that will attract the things you want.
5. Determine that you will not allow your partners decision to completely define your personal self worth.
6. Truthfully let go while honoring your desire to have a healthy relationship because you deserve it.