Not every sexual encounter has to be a meaningful, soul-bonding experience. With all due respect to your affections for your partner, quickies aren’t about ‘making love’. They’re about lust. Wonderful, heat-seeking lust, minus the frills and fuss. Highly excitable, very explosive sex in minutes. Literally. The trick, ironically, can be holding back. It’s important to realize that quickies don’t require having all-out sexual intercourse.
Granted, you wouldn’t want a sex diet consisting of nothing but ‘wham, bam, thank you ma’am’. But a quickie can be a sustaining snack for your libido when you don’t have the luxury of time for a full sexual menu.
Quickies may sound like the type of thing men would be into and women would merely tolerate. But the fact is, sometimes your woman doesn’t want the music, the flowers, the poems. She doesn’t always yearn for the tender tracing of her body. Sometimes she simply wants to be tackled when she walks through the door, and made to feel insanely desirable. The eroticism of surprise – a reminder of the full force of a lover’s needs and desires – can be a powerful motivation.
And the experts agree. A quickie can give you an erotic jolt. Impulsive, unplanned sex keeps the buzz alive. There’s no doubt that quick sex keeps you connected and feeling good.
Emotionally, the feeling of being desired, satisfying a partner and oneself enhances one’s self-esteem. Quickies encourage people to try different ways of having sex. We live most of our lives in a state of habit. We end up having sex the same way and doing the same things without really thinking about what we’re doing or why.
As long as you and your lady have an understanding as to what type of conduct is welcome, it’s perfectly all right to grab her and strip her clothes off (bearing in mind that tearing buttons off an expensive blouse is not a turn-on). Andrea, a 29-year-old attorney, puts it this way: ‘Sometimes I feel as irrationally randy as he does. I just have to be in the right mood. And I need to know he is being sexy, not pushy.’
A quickie can be as spontaneous as putting down the shopping bags and bending her over the bonnet of your car. Or a quickie can be planned, allowing her to dress for access with clothes that can be easily removed, or a skirt that you can simply slide up. A quickie doesn’t have to end in intercourse, either. It can just be a session of mutually pleasurable touching. These ravenous rendezvous can be used as a form of foreplay to keep each other primed for longer passion pursuits when time allows.
The best quickies involve the build-up of excitement long before you actually touch. This build-up can take the form of an erotic note left folded in her diary. Or grab your cell phone and SMS sex text to her. By the time you fall upon each other, she will be a panting, lubricious heap of pulsating desire. (Remember that sex testing only works if your abbreviations make sense. Nothing kills the erotic mood like having to request clarification).
One of the best things about the quickie is that you can be imaginative about where it happens. Which is great, because most men love having sex out of the bedroom.
Many couples enjoy taking sex on the road. The most common place for adults to have sex outside their bedrooms is in the car, followed by bathrooms, someone else’s bedroom, or in a park, or at work.
New and risky locations are the best form of foreplay. Make use of novel surroundings to awaken your senses and bring you both into the moment. You have a wide range of choices for venues – you don’t need much time, just energy, privacy and a hit of lube. Anywhere, Anytime
To the practiced eye, anywhere can be a shag spot – a library, an art gallery, a parking lot. So how do you make it happen when the appetite strikes? First, find a quiet corner. Push your partner up against a convenient wall or seat. Undo zips and buttons, and pull clothes up, down and apart just enough to allow penetration. With one eye peeled to make sure you won’t be caught out, have fast and furious sex. A good position for this kind of quickie is to have her stand with one foot resting on a chair and to enter her from behind, leaving your hands free to play with her breasts.
The options here are limited only by your imagination. Ask her to dance to some raunchy music with you – naked. Slide her panties aside while she’s on the phone with her boss and let your mouth make her quiver. Take your clothes off and pull her to the floor. Lean her against the kitchen counter. Hoist her on to a vibrating tumble-dryer. When you have your position, bring her pelvis up close and tight and thrust with wild abandon. Ejaculate. Hug and relax together. Simple.
Get your girl to straddle you on a beanbag chair. Don’t worry – the cushioning will prevent knee burns. Use your legs to thrust forwards and backwards while she rolls her hips in circles.
Lie her on her stomach over a stability ball while you settle yourself over her, doggie-style. Have fun gently rolling to and fro.
In the Garden
Don’t ignore the possibilities of open-air sex in your garden. All the better if they involve a wheelbarrow or a low workbench – a great place for her to straddle you and pump up and down while you play with her bouncing breasts. Other opportunities include…
1. A hammock or tree house, if you have a head for heights.
2. Kiddie pool. On a warm day, fill up a kiddie pool and take a dip. Sit on your heels while she lies flat with her head on the opposite edge and raises her hips towards you.
3. Kid’s slide. Take off her panties and have her climb the ladder ahead of you. At the top, have her bend over, feet still on a rung, breasts pressed against the slide. You hold tightly to the sides of the ladder. Flip up her skirt and have some slippery fun.
Your desk, or hers, is the obvious place – she lies back and pulls her knees up towards her breasts, you have the freedom to use your tongue or your penis on her deliciously exposed clitoris.
Alternatively, sling her ankles over your shoulders, making an L-shape of her body, and move straight in.
Another option is the office stairwell, especially if yours is clean and carpeted. Sit down on a step and seat her on your lap facing away, her legs outside yours. Her feet should be on a level where she can use her legs and arms for leverage. She could also kneel on a step below you and give you a blow job. Then you switch places and return the favor. Open her legs and part the moist labia further. She’ll come in about 30 seconds.
Prefer to stand? Have her stand facing the wall or holding on to a banister, one foot on a step or two higher than the other. Grab her hips and enter her from behind, or use your fingers to get her going.
On The Beach
The beach offers maximum opportunity – how long does it take to remove a bikini? – but it does come with risks. During the hottest parts of the day, areas of your skin not usually exposed to the sun can burn in the time it takes to do the deed. And pay attention to the wind. If it’s blowing sand into your face, imagine how it will feel on your sensitive bits. Your moan of pleasure might also be silenced by a mouthful of sand.
In a Forest
Having sex on the bare earth may sound raw and sensual, but the reality of the matter is that leaves and dirt are not natural lubricants, so whip out a sleeping bag or picnic blanket to keep things comfy. Without it, one wrong thrust will leave you with a stick in the back or a twig in a not-so-comfortable place. Using lubrication outdoors is also problematic, as it causes every little speck of dirt to end up where you least want it. And don’t forget about the insects whose homes you are invading. Days after a romp in the wild, you may find yourself with itchy red bumps on skin that’s not normally exposed.
Raining? Yes. This is about as erotic as it comes. Primal instincts mixed with lust and the excitement of being outside in a rain storm all make for quickie sex you’ll never forget.
The allure of the quickie lies in its brevity and the purely wanton way it is often carried out. Many of us fantasize about quickie sex in a particular place, or have had at least one session that has left amazing memories.
The Fantasies: ‘I fantasize about having sex in the middle of the UN General Assembly,’ says 28-year-old Will, a doctoral politics student. ‘Imagine the international goodwill the event would represent’. His choice of venue is a little narcissistic, but Will’s exhibitionist scenario isn’t unique.
Public places for sex also appeal to Deon, 29, a photographer. His fantasy is to have fast, wet sex overlooking the Victoria Falls in Zimbabwe. ‘I’d have her from behind. The sex would be basic, but the setting stupendous,’ he says with a grin. ‘She’d be leaning over a rock, so we could both enjoy the view.’
The Favorites: Matt, an economist aged 31 had a quickie he still dreams about. ‘It happened in my gap year. I joined a tour through Greece and Italy and became friendly with an Australian girl. On the last night we ended up at the main airport in Rome. Our flights were delayed. We piled up our bags, making a space in a corner for a snooze. She was pressed against me, her cute derriere snuggled into a tiny skirt. Yes, well, it took about two seconds to slide down her tights. Her boots were still on. It was the sweetest sex ever’.
Thami, 33, is a businessman. He says his favorite quickie happened at home. ‘When I saw my wife arranging parcels under the lit Christmas tree, her breasts peeking out from her nightie, I just lost it. I pulled her to the floor on top of me. We went from zero to 150 in seconds. I got carpet burn’.
Paul, a 24-year-old geologist, got burns of a different kind with his most memorable session. ‘It was irrational,’ he recalls. ‘My girl and I were driving towards Gobabeb in the Namib Desert. We got a puncture. Swearing, I climbed out of the double cab, and she followed. Her sundress hitched up, showing an adorable thong. I just shoved her up against the side of the cab and we went at it, right there in the desert. The sex took about four minutes, but I suffered for days afterwards. The damn thong gave me friction burns.’