If you’re looking for a marriage counselor in Las Vegas, Nevada or Schenectady, New York, please be aware that in those two cities, and in virtually every city across the nation, marriage counselors have a dismal record for saving marriages. The fact of the matter is you and your spouse have the best chance of saving your marriage – all on your own. The great news is that when you set your minds to saving your marriage, you can make it happen 100% of the time. The only thing standing between you and a happy marriage is 1) the knowledge of what to do, and 2) the will to do it.
Marriage counselors are usually trained psychologists who help people deal with their issues. But issues don’t interfere with a happy marriage. Issues are individual problems every single individual in the world has. If it were issues that prevented a happy marriage, there would be no such thing as a happy marriage because everyone has issues. The cause of marriage failure lies in not understanding what a marriage is.
When I began mediation it was overwhelmingly clear to me people really don’t want to get a divorce, they just don’t know what else to do. Would you get into an airplane and attempt to fly it if you had not read an instruction manual or taken any lessons?
Once you understand the construction of a marriage and which control does what, you can become your own marriage counselor. I have seen more “ah ha” moments than probably anyone, as I explained the most basic and simple premises that make a marriage what it is. Please do not give up hope. Please do not imagine your marriage is in trouble. When you know what to do and you do it, you will have the happiest marriage on earth. And please don’t forget to tell your spouse, “I love you.”
