Online Daters and Practical Tips

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Online dating has boomed in popularity in the last few years to become not only acceptable, but also perfectly normal. This innovative way of meeting another person for possible partnership or other interest is the offshoot of digital technology in general and smartphones in particular.

Online dating has boomed in popularity in the last few years to become not only acceptable, but also perfectly normal. Online dating is a great way to meet new people and to spread your net a little further, when you are searching for love, but for some, it is still unchartered waters.

If you are dating online, you will probably have lots to say about it. This innovative way of meeting another person for possible partnership or other interest is the offshoot of digital technology in general and smartphones in particular. It has transformed a person’s lifestyle, especially in establishing romantic relationships.

There are practical guidelines and useful as dating tips for new relationships so daters can follow smooth and safe route toward successful partnership.

Whether you’ve been on umpteen dates with people you’ve met online, or are still preparing for your first, we can all do with a little bit of advice when it comes to dating in the technified world.

01
Take your time with your profile and be honest

A vague or half-finished profile – left that way out of shyness – can be misconstrued as suspicious. If you’re unsure what to say about yourself, there’s no shame in asking a friend or family member to help you write it.

Taking your time when writing your profile on the online dating site and be perfectly honest. Your profile is the very first impression that you are making on a future partner, so you want it to express who you are accurately. Lies at this stage may well attract more attention, but remember that when you meet someone that you really know, the truth will surface out.

Also, never leave the ‘about yourself’ part of your online dating site profile blank; describe yourself to give the other person an idea of who you are, what you looking for and what you like.

02
Check your spelling and grammar

You don’t have to be a professor of English language to write your profile, but do take the time to check your spelling and grammar.

It’s easy enough to do with your word processor software, as poor spelling and grammar can give people the impression that you are a bit careless with the things that you do.

03
Remember that online dating profiles are in the public domain

Every now and then, a horror story emerges about online dating. These range from people not looking like their profile pictures, to people turning out to be downright dangerous. It’s important you choose somewhere public for your first date, and as an extra precaution, make sure you let a friend or family member know you’re going on the date, and that you’ll contact them in however long if all goes well. As a general rule, avoid people who instantly suggest you come over to their place, or who seem overly pushy to meet you before chatting first.

Don’t forget that your online profile could be read by anyone, including your mum, your boss or even your current partner! Like everything that you put on the internet, you’d be amazed at how easy some things can be found.

04
That goes for your profile photos, too

It might sound obvious, but try to pick photos for your profile that are clear, honest and show you in your best light. That blurry photo with the really bright flash? The one of you on holiday in sunglasses? Or your all-time favourite photo that was taken a good 10 years ago? Nope nope nope.

Don’t go overboard with the overly suggestive images of yourself. A little enticing cleavage if fine, but you don’t want to give the wrong impression about yourself. Also, always use up to date images, a ten year old photo of you is just another form of lying.

If you don’t have a decent bank of recent-ish photos, it might be worth investing in a shoot with a professional, who specialises in dating photos.

05
Get a friend to help

If you are not used to it, then writing a glowing report about yourself can be really difficult. Getting a friend to help you can be fun and it will give you a third party view of who you are and what makes you special.

06
Stay safe online

Every now and then, a horror story emerges about online dating. These range from people not looking like their profile pictures, to people turning out to be downright dangerous. It’s important you choose somewhere public for your first date, and as an extra precaution, make sure you let a friend or family member know you’re going on the date, and that you’ll contact them in however long if all goes well.

As a general rule, avoid people who instantly suggest you come over to their place, or who seem overly pushy to meet you before chatting first.

07
Make messages personal

You’ve met someone you like. Hurrah! You’re probably thinking about them intermittently throughout the day and it’s natural to want to let them know what you’re up to.

It’s important to remember that it’s early days, though, and even if they’ve given you all the right signals so far, receiving a picture of the quinoa salad you made for lunch, or several missed calls when you only spoke the night before, might be enough to give them cold feet. Think of communication as balancing a set of scales: add only as much to your side as they do to theirs.

When you send a message to someone make it personal by mentioning a few things that caught your eye in their profile and definitely don’t just copy and paste a standard message.

Don’t just sit back and wait for messages from your true love, go searching and browsing people’s profiles yourself and message a few people. Find some people that you like the look of, send them a personal message (or at least a smile or a wink) and see where it leads. Because if you don’t initiate a conversation with them, how in the world will this person know you exist?

08
Avoid mentioning the ex

Whether they broke your heart, spent your money, or the amalgamation of all their annoying little habits eventually drove you to drive a metaphorical knife through their heart and call it quits, your new date doesn’t need to know. Yes, it’s natural to be curious about who he or she was dating before you, but these conversations will happen organically in their own time. In short, try to avoid the ex chat when you’re on your first date.

09
Remember: you can afford to be selective

Have the courage to actually go on dates. This is a dating site not an online chat room! Stay safe on dates though, as you don’t know this person yet. Meet in a public place and always let friends or family know where you are going.

Please don’t think you have to go on a date with the first person who asks you out, just because you’ve been single for a while. By that same logic, you should also never feel pressured into going home with someone after a date, or meeting up with them again unless you’re sure you really want to.

Roughly seven million UK residents are currently using dating sites, not to mention all the eligible singles dating offline. There’s really no need for anyone to settle for the first offer. Take your time to find the right partner for you.

Stick to meet for coffee or a lunchtime drink at a bar for the first date with someone that you have met online. Then, if you find that the person is incredibly boring, it’s easier to make your escape quickly. If you go for dinner, you have, at least, three courses to sit through before you can make a run for it!

Have you ever tried online dating websites? What are your own tips for the online dating success? Feel free to share your thoughts in the comment section below. Stay happy!
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By: Jess Lorinter

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