When you are in love, it seems that nothing can interfere with your happiness. A loved one fills your whole being, and you want it to be so always.
Of course, the first thought that overshadows your bright head is this: “We will get married, live together until 100 years old and die in one day, because it is impossible to live even a second without a loved one . ” Now take off your rose-colored glasses. Love is wonderful, and God forbid that it lasts as long as possible, but building a marriage on love alone is the same as having only candy all your life. Sooner or later, the stomach will hurt.
Relationship Between Spouses
There are several unspoken rules for creating a happy marriage: do not wash dirty linen in public, stop complaining, you need not swear, but talk. And patience, my friend, you will need to stock up on them well. The editors will tell you in detail why everything has been going to hell until now.
If you want to grow old with a person, it is unlikely that the reason is his bottomless eyes or chic curls. This is enough to make you fall in love, and even then not always. And in order to live in perfect harmony and be happy, you need to know each other and be able to communicate.
“Can you read?” – asked us a teacher in the first year of the Faculty of Philology. And everyone answered with a laugh: “Of course we can . ” And when she asked to demonstrate her speaking skills, someone stumbled on a difficult word or intoned incorrectly.
So that’s it. Can you communicate? Why, having lived in marriage for several years, the spouses are disappointed and remember the candy-bouquet period, which seems to them the best in the relationship? Because at this time you try to get to know each other, are attentive to trifles, spend your free time together – communicate, in a word.
You will not find this communication with fire during the day, when everyday routine takes up all your free time, and after work you just want to drop your hooves. What a trip to the cinema! If for a partner a trip to an exhibition, a movie or a theater is vital, and you hate operetta, make an effort on yourself. Remember how charming your wife is when she is happy. On the contrary, when you want to watch your favorite TV series, and your husband needs to pass the 90th level in “tanks”, let him pass.