So, you got your first gay date at last! But it is not the end of your hard – long and winding road to find your soul mate. In fact, it is just your beginning of more heartbreak journey. Your first date moves will produces more second date or unfortunately a closed door even before you’ve tried to open it.
” Knock—Knock! Sorry. I’m not at home. I know you are out there but get out of my door”.
1.Pick the wrong Place!
Make sure you pick the right place for your first date. Check and make sure if he’s out to his family, friends and how he feels about it. It will be awfully nasty awkward to find him keeping his eyes popping out since you take him to the place where he usually hangs out and he’s afraid of running into someone who may know or suspect him of being gay. Oh, my GOSH— He’s gorgeous but he’s not OUT.
Suggest a meeting during your office lunch break will be ideal. You both probably are in your formal office suit and meeting other guy this way make impression that you are having a lunch meeting with your client discussing new deals not with your boy friend.
I know it’s not romantic but seeing him during lunch break will give more opportunity to you. Especially, if you are the one who is not out. It takes your worries away. You will be more relax and be your full self.
Since the lunch time hour is limited, and during one-hour time, you will practically eat, talk and be ready to hit back to your office. You don’t have to invent any excuses to run away once you find out your date is a boy from hell. In contrary, if you have find mutual attraction you will crave to see him very soon and will ensure more dates
2. Make him wait.
Being late will imprint your bad image and a sure thing your love will not going any where in future. You make it worse if you are making out excuses. We always, somehow, are able to find it out sooner or later. Believe me.
Come at least half an hour earlier, and make yourself comfortable, relax and you will be less stressful once you see him face to face.
3. Make and receive phone call during date
Don’t do it. You will give him impression that you are not interested in him and show little attention to your conversation. First date is a mutual interview process to get to know more each other. But if you are not interested…it’s be your first and last date.
It’s yikee – yikee if every 10 minutes he has to cut your conversation to make phone call or busy SMS-ing. Unless your house is on fire and the call from the police office, turn your cell phone OFF. If you feel trapped with this boy and need a rescue, please do it discreetly.
3. Dominate all the conversation – Another big turn-off.
You don’t have to show off your attribute, asset, traits or your riches and don’t talk about your ex-es, whining about your bad experience with him, and how bad he treated you. Your past is past – don’t dig it. You are here to start fresh new start with your potential date. He’s not your shrink! Your conversation should come in a natural way of give and take style conversation.
4. Don’t bring your friend on your date.
Pheww!! Am I dating you or your friend? You aren’t suggesting a 3some, are you? Come on. Bringing your friend over is the least-thing you should do. It’s stressful for both of you during the first date meeting but having friend come by was even more stressful.
5. Make him foot the bill
Since he’s the one who ask you out-let him foot all bill, right? It’s simply a courtesy of gentleman in straight love scene. But we are not. It makes me feel guilty and feel like a woman if I let my date foot the entire bill. I prefer to go on Dutch so I don’t feel oblige to ask him out for second date just to return the favor.